Teacher Appreciation Week Isn't A Retention Strategy
This week, there will be messages, free meals, and moments meant to say thank you to educators. The question I continue to grapple with is this: How does Teacher Appreciation Week get us any closer to retaining Black educators?
This week, there will be messages, free meals, and moments meant to say thank you to educators. The question I continue to grapple with is this: How does Teacher Appreciation Week get us any closer to retaining Black educators?
Since I started The Exit Interview: A Podcast for Black Educators six years ago, I've been asking guests the same question: What do you believe schools, districts, and unions can do to retain Black educators?
The clips below have been dug out of our archives, some conversations more recent than others. Regardless of the year, the answers remain the same because the problem of Black educator retention persists, no matter how many gift cards and coffee cups are offered during Teacher Appreciation Week.
I begin with Kwame Sarfo-Mensah, whose words help us rethink what retention really requires.
From: Learning to Relearn with Kwame Sarfo-Mensah
Kwame invites us to think about retention through conditions. Jenna pushes us further, asking whether those conditions are even possible within the systems we currently have.
In the next clip, Jenna Greenwood names what Black educators are asking for: fair pay, space to exist beyond whiteness, and the ability to be human, while also holding a harder truth: many educators don’t believe institutions are built to offer it.
From: Finding Identity and Community with Jenna Greenwood
Jenna names a truth that’s hard to sit with: for many Black educators, the question isn’t just what would retain us, but whether the systems we’re in are built to support us at all. That kind of uncertainty shapes how Black educators move, what we expect, and what we believe is possible.
Within those conditions, something else begins to happen Black educators are left to navigate not just the system, but the impact it has on how we show up with and for one another.
Kelly Mitchell, in the next clip, speaks to what it means not to be alone, naming the roles of community and mentorship, and the ways isolation and even internalized racism can unknowingly undermine sustainability.
From: The Tax We Pay with Kelly Mitchell
Kelly names the importance of not being alone and how even our attempts to support one another can be shaped by the systems we’re trying to survive. Which brings us back to the system itself.
If isolation, pressure, and burnout are predictable outcomes, then retention requires more than mentorship; it requires fundamentally different conditions.
In the next clip, Kai-ama Hamer makes that plain, naming what Black educators have always needed: to be paid well, led by people who know how to lead, and supported as whole human beings in environments where their cups are not constantly running dry.
Her conversation about Human Development vs. Professional Development is one that we need to keep having in education.
From: A Love Letter to the Bronx with Kai-ama Hamer
Kai-ama makes clear what educators need to sustain themselves in the present. But retention is not only about the present, but it’s also about what we are able to build over time.
When Black educators are not retained, something larger is disrupted: the ability to pass down knowledge, navigate systems together, and shape environments for those who come next.
In the final clip, Langston K. Jacobs, MA speaks to that loss and possibility, reminding us that retention is not just about numbers, it’s about cultivating generations of Black educators who can support one another and turn lived experience into lasting change.
(Re)defining Me with Langston Jacobs
Across these reflections, a pattern becomes clear: retention cannot be reduced to appreciation.
It is shaped by pay, leadership, community, protection, and the ability to exist fully as a human being within the work. It is shaped by whether educators are isolated or supported, whether they are expected to endure or able to build.
Ultimately, it is shaped by whether systems are willing to move beyond gestures and toward transformation.
Teacher Appreciation Week may provide recognition, but retention requires something far more intentional that I know the education systems as a whole isn't willing to offer.
When Black Educators Lose the Fight
There’s a moment when a Black educator realizes they are not just tired… they have exhausted all of their options.
I heard that moment in real time during a recent conversation on The Exit Interview: A Podcast for Black Educators.
My guest Nye Trusty was describing an experience that felt familiar. Her principal and assistant principal walked into her classroom, scanned the walls, and later handed her a list of what needed to come down.
There’s a moment when a Black educator realizes they are not just tired… they have exhausted all of their options.
I heard that moment in real time during a recent conversation on The Exit Interview: A Podcast for Black Educators.
My guest Nye Trusty was describing an experience that felt familiar. Her principal and assistant principal walked into her classroom, scanned the walls, and later handed her a list of what needed to come down. Not just anything, specifically the images, symbols, and representations of Black identity, she had intentionally created for her students. Posters of Africa, Malcolm X, and more.
The reason?
They were concerned about whether White students and families would feel comfortable.
She told me what happened next.
She didn’t fight back.
When she said that, I didn’t feel surprised.
I understood.
It’s important to name that the administrators who made that request were also Black women. Because it challenges a common, and dangerous assumption in education: that shared identity automatically produces shared understanding or protection.
It doesn’t.
Representation alone does not interrupt systems that were never designed with us in mind. And without intentional disruption, those systems can be enforced by anyone positioned within them.
I’ve experienced that complexity firsthand.
In my case, my principal was a White woman married to a Black woman, and her boss was a Black woman. And still, the harm happened. Still, decisions were made that stripped away my autonomy, my safety, and my ability to do my work in a way that aligned with who I was.
So this isn’t about pointing fingers at individuals.
It’s about telling the truth about systems and how they move through people, regardless of who they are.
I understood because I’ve been there, and I carry these experiences with me in the work I do with educators now.
I’ve sat in that same space where you know something is unfair, and you also know you don’t have what it takes in that moment to push back.
Not because you don’t care. Not because you don’t know better.
But because something in you has already been worn down.
For me, that year looked like crying in my car before work. It felt like staring at my email inbox, with a pit in my stomach, anticipating the next message from a parent or a principal that would question my competence, professionalism, or my right to exist in that space.
If that wasn’t enough, it looked like therapy sessions where my nose started bleeding as I tried to explain what was happening to me.
My body was responding before I could even fully articulate the harm.
Hives across my back. Constant tension headaches. A nervous system that never got a break.
I know someone reading this understands exactly what I’m saying.
We have language for this.
It’s called Racial Battle Fatigue.
And it’s not just about one incident.
It’s about accumulation.
That’s the part people don’t understand when they ask:
“Why didn’t you say something?”
What they’re really asking is:
“Why didn’t you fight?”
But fighting in schools is not a one-time act of courage.
It is a sustained, strategic, exhausting effort that comes with real consequences.
You risk your job security.
You risk your reputation by being labeled “difficult,” “divisive,” or “not a team player.”
You risk isolation, colleagues distancing themselves, unions that don’t support you, and equity offices that admit, sometimes out loud, that they have no power to help.
I had the executive director of the district equity department once tell me after hearing what I was up against at my school:
“I’m just a token here.”
So when people say “just speak up,” I have to ask: To whom? And at what cost?
Many Black educators don’t leave when they want to.
They leave when they have to, after years of trying to make it work. After switching schools, districts, and roles, convincing themselves that the next place will be different.
In my work and through my research, I see this pattern over and over again.
By the time we reach the moment where we don’t have it in us to fight back anymore, it’s not the beginning of the story.
It’s the end.
And when that moment comes, the impact doesn’t stay at school.
It comes home.
I became a different person in my own house.
I didn’t want to go anywhere. I didn’t want to do anything. I didn’t want to laugh or be in community. I wasn’t the person my husband had married; I was a shell of myself.
He tried to pull me back into joy, into connection, into life outside of that building.
And I couldn’t meet him there.
Not because I didn’t love him.
Because I didn’t have anything left to give.
That’s what happens when you are fighting all day.
Or worse, you’ve stopped fighting, but you’re still inside the system that caused the harm.
Families, partners, and children feel it. And they absorb it with you.
We don’t talk enough about how racial battle fatigue from education systems cross over into our homes, how it reshapes relationships, how it disconnects people from themselves and from each other.
And then we turn around and ask those same families to trust the very systems that harmed the person they love.
Students feel it too.
They sense it when we’re depleted.
They notice it when we don’t have the energy to push back.
They witness it when something shifts in us, when the joy, the advocacy, the resistance starts to fade.
And when we leave, we know they feel that too.
We often talk about the loss of Black educators in terms of the pipeline and representation. But what we don’t always name is that students sometimes lose us well before we physically leave the building.
They lose the version of us that had the capacity to fight.
And when we do leave, we carry something with us.
The guilt.
The wondering.
The question of whether we could have done more, stayed longer, fought harder.
Here’s the truth that we don’t say enough: this isn’t about resilience.
Let’s be real, it’s about abuse.
When the education system consistently tries to strip you of your identity, questions your legitimacy, isolates you from support, and punishes you for speaking up, that is not just a “challenging work environment”, nor are you simply experiencing burnout.
That’s trauma over time.
It erodes us slowly until what is left can sometimes be unrecognizable, even to ourselves. Sound familiar?
It wears down your ability to respond and to resist.
By the time some Black educators stop fighting, it’s not because we’ve given up.
It’s because the system has taken everything it needed to continue functioning exactly as it is.
It gains compliance and the appearance of diversity without the disruption of equity in exchange for a paycheck and retirement account. It gains Black bodies in classrooms, front offices, and superintendent seats that signal inclusion, while silencing the very voices that could challenge the system.
It gains the ability to say, “See? They’re still here and they love it!”
When Nye and other Black educators admit that they didn’t fight back, I don’t hear a sign of weakness.
I hear evidence of structures that don’t just create harm, but depend on wearing people and their families down over time.
Education systems and those who support them from the outside need to reconsider asking Black educators to keep fighting and start asking systems why the fight exists in the first place.
In the end, until we acknowledge that this is not just about individual endurance but about collective harm that extends to families, communities, and generations, nothing will change.
What Black Women Tell Me Off Mic
After years of listening to Black women educators across the country, I noticed a truth we cannot keep ignoring.
After years of recording The Exit Interview: A Podcast for Black Educators, I realized I was hearing the same story again and again.
Maybe twenty or thirty episodes in, a pattern began to emerge. In pre-interviews, Black women would tell me about harm they had experienced in education spaces under the leadership of Black men. They named principals, assistant principals, deans, supervisors, nonprofit leaders, and district figures. They spoke clearly about what happened, how power was used, and how deeply it affected them.
Then the microphone would turn on.
And something would shift.
The Black male principal became “leadership.” The supervisor became “my boss.” The man at the center of the story became genderless.
The pain remained. But part of the truth disappeared.
At first, I wasn’t surprised.
I’m a Black woman who has worked inside education systems. I taught for twelve years. I’ve worked in higher education. I understand how institutions organize power and how certain narratives are protected. I understand how much urgency, funding, and celebration can surround efforts to bring more Black men into education.
So it didn’t shock me that some women were willing to name harm privately, but hesitated to name it publicly.
What struck me was how often it happened.
And it wasn’t only happening on the podcast.
In workshops, trainings, and conversations across the country, I began naming misogynoir in education spaces out loud. Often, once I said it first, Black women would respond the same way.
Me too.
That happened to me, too.
I’ve seen that too.
Sometimes people need to know they are not alone before they can speak.
Why the Story Gets Edited
By now, some people may ask: why would Black women tell these stories privately, then soften them publicly?
Because many understand that telling the full truth can have consequences.
Some fear losing contracts, consulting opportunities, or future access. Some fear being excluded from professional circles. Some fear being labeled difficult, divisive, or disloyal. Some fear damaging the career of the very man who harmed them. Some fear that if they tell the truth, they will be accused of turning against Black men or harming the larger community.
That is part of what makes this silence so layered.
Black women are often expected to absorb harm and protect the person causing it.
I’ve seen what this can look like. It rarely shows up first in formal complaints or public statements. It often shows up in texts and calls between Black women who are trying to keep one another safe.
Don’t go work for him.
Watch out for that school.
I need to tell you what happened to me there.
These whisper networks do not form because nothing happened. They form because speaking plainly feels risky.
Part of that risk is connected to a larger narrative many of us know well: the urgency of bringing more Black men into education.
Across the country, there are university-based initiatives, fellowships, and pipeline programs focused on recruiting Black male educators. These efforts often receive praise, funding, visibility, and social media attention. Black men in classrooms are still framed as rare and urgently needed.
I understand why those efforts exist. Representation matters. Black children deserve to see themselves reflected in educators.
But when rarity becomes reverence, accountability can become harder.
When the public story is that Black men in education must be protected at all costs, then conversations about Black male leaders harming Black women can be treated as inconvenient, divisive, or untimely.
The harm gets minimized because the pipeline has already been prioritized.
The Retention Lie No One Wants to Discuss
When people talk about Black educator retention, they often don’t actually talk about Black educator retention.
More often, Black educators are folded into the broader conversation about teachers leaving the profession. The language becomes familiar: low pay, burnout, long hours, lack of support, staffing shortages.
All of those issues matter.
But they are incomplete.
When we use blanket explanations for everyone, we flatten the experiences of Black educators. And when we flatten the experiences of Black educators, we especially erase Black women.
Black women do not move through education, or through this country, the same way everyone else does. Our experiences exist at the intersection of race and gender, a reality Kimberlé Crenshaw helped the world better understand.
So when Black women talk about staying or leaving education, the conversation cannot stop at low pay or generic burnout.
Because many Black women are navigating multiple pressures at once.
We may be dealing with hostility from white colleagues. We may be viewed as intimidating when we are competent. We may be asked to lead, then punished for leading. We may be burdened with invisible labor. We may be expected to mentor everyone while receiving little support ourselves.
And some are also navigating misogynoir from Black men in positions of authority.
That is not the same story as “teachers are burned out.”
If the diagnosis is shallow, the solutions will be too.
Diversity Alone Does Not Equal Safety
There is also a common assumption that if a school is majority Black or majority people of color, then the workplace must automatically be healthier.
That assumption is false.
Shared racial identity does not automatically create shared liberation.
People can look alike and still carry very different politics, values, wounds, and relationships to power. There can be anti-Blackness. There can be colorism. There can be rigid gender roles. There can be ego. There can be competition. There can be misogynoir.
Sometimes, diversity without accountability can make harm harder to name because everyone assumes it shouldn't be happening there.
We cannot keep confusing representation with justice.
Why This Is Hard to Say Publicly
This conversation creates a different kind of tension than conversations about racism from white leadership.
Many people know how to discuss white supremacy when it sits in a white body. Institutions know how to host DEI trainings, release statements, or perform concern.
This is different.
This asks us to talk about power in a gendered body. It asks us to hold two truths at once: Black men can experience racial oppression, and Black women can experience harm from Black men in positions of authority.
That complexity makes people uncomfortable.
When Black women publicly critique harm from Black men, many carry real fear.
Fear of being attacked.
Fear of being called anti-Black men.
Fear of being accused of tearing down the community.
Fear that people will piece together names, schools, and districts and retaliate.
I’ve felt some of that pressure myself while writing this.
I was raised under many of the same invisible rules that other Black women were raised under. Rules about protecting community image. Rules about what stays inside. Rules about not saying certain things publicly, even when they are true.
But silence is not solidarity.
Naming misogynoir is not attacking Black men.
Accountability is not betrayal.
Truth-telling is not disloyalty.
What Needs to Change
If we are serious about retention, then we must become serious about accountability.
Real accountability begins with acknowledgment.
Black male leaders must be willing to examine where harm has happened under their leadership. The harm they caused directly. Harm they benefited from. Harm they witnessed and chose not to interrupt.
That kind of reckoning requires humility.
It requires reflection.
It may require therapy.
It requires a willingness to look at patterns instead of pretending every story is isolated.
And after acknowledgment must come change.
Leadership is stewardship of power.
That means creating workplaces where Black women can speak honestly without punishment. It means sharing opportunities. It means recognizing labor accurately. It means apologizing when harm occurs. It means making repair possible.
Right now, Black women educators need psychological safety. They need fair compensation. They need rest. They need healing spaces. They need leadership pathways that do not require self-erasure.
Most importantly, they need workplaces that they do not have to recover from.
Districts, universities, nonprofits, and funders also need to look more honestly at what they celebrate.
If an initiative produces more Black male principals, deans, superintendents, or teachers, are we also asking the people under their leadership about their experience?
Are we conducting meaningful exit interviews?
Are we listening to supervisees and colleagues?
Or are we congratulating ourselves because the numbers look good on paper?
Representation without accountability can become branding.
If We Truly Want Retention
If we truly want to retain Black educators, then we must acknowledge that Black women often have a different experience in education than Black men do.
And we must listen seriously to Black women who have already left.
Retention strategies cannot be built only from the voices of those who remained. They cannot rest on assumptions about burnout or pay alone. They cannot be designed through guesswork when thousands of women hold direct knowledge of why they walked away.
This conversation is more nuanced than the public narrative allows.
And we are more brilliant than the solutions we have accepted.
For Black women reading this, I want you to know something clearly:
I heard you.
Even if this piece arrives later than it should have, I heard you.
I appreciate you. I love you. And I want you to stay in education as long as you desire, not until harm forces you out.
We are stronger when truth-telling is part of education.
We are wiser when retention efforts can stand ten toes down in honesty.
And we will only move forward when silence is no longer mistaken for solidarity.
“My Mom Was Right”: What Our Families Know About Teaching That We Ignore
Before she became a teacher, Kelly Mitchell’s mom questioned her decision. And later, after everything Kelly experienced in education, she said plainly, "My mom was right."
Before she became a teacher, Kelly Mitchell’s mom questioned her decision. And later, after everything Kelly experienced in education, she said plainly, "My mom was right." That moment didn’t surprise me, but it sat with me. Because I often think about the ways our families try to warn us about becoming educators.
For many of us, those warnings aren’t random; they’re rooted in history. They come from parents and grandparents who lived through school integration after Brown v. Board of Education, who experienced bussing not as a policy but as something that disrupted, displaced, and harmed. They remember what it felt like to enter schools that weren’t designed to protect or nurture them. They remember the trauma, even if they don’t always name it that way. So when Kelly talked about her mom’s hesitation, I didn’t hear doubt. I heard protection. I heard a mother who understood something deeply that education, as a system, has never been neutral for us.
I think about my own daughter. If she told me she wanted to become an educator after everything I’ve experienced, I’d be afraid for her. Not because I don’t believe in teaching. Not because I don’t believe in students. But because I understand what this system can do to a person’s spirit, their body, and their sense of self.
My father told me I was too smart to become a teacher. At the time, I heard that as dismissal.
When I think about what older Black folks have shared about education, the message is consistent, even when it’s unspoken. You can’t fully trust these systems. You have to take care of yourself. Focus on the kids, but be careful with the adults. Don’t lose yourself trying to survive in that place. And for some of us, the warning was more direct. My father told me I was too smart to become a teacher. At the time, I heard that as dismissal. But looking back, I hear what his experiences taught him. He grew up in Detroit Public Schools and didn’t see Black genius reflected back in his teachers. To him, becoming an educator meant settling. That belief didn’t come from nowhere. It came from what he saw. And still, I became an educator. Because many of us do. We enter the profession not because we’re unaware of the warnings, but because we feel called. We love students. We love learning. We’re born to teach. And the most accessible, visible pathway for that calling is the classroom. We don’t start off thinking about building freedom schools or creating something new. We walk into the systems that already exist.
Not every Black educator experiences harm in the same way. Many thrive. Some build long, meaningful careers. But for many of us, the cost is real.
But here’s the truth I’ve come to understand through my own experience, my research, and the stories shared on The Exit Interview: our families weren’t wrong. Not every Black educator experiences harm in the same way. Many thrive. Some build long, meaningful careers. But for many of us, the cost is real. And when we ignore that intergenerational wisdom, we end up paying for it in ways we weren’t prepared for. We pay for it in our mental health. We pay for it in our bodies. We pay for it in the slow dimming of something that once felt like light. Our families see it. They watch us come home exhausted. They hear the stories we tell. They feel the weight we carry. And it confirms what they already believed, that this system wasn’t built for us.
What I’ve also learned, through my dissertation on racial battle fatigue's impact on Black educators and our families and through nearly every conversation on my podcast, is that this harm is never isolated. When Black educators experience hurt, it ripples. We talk to our families. We text our friends. We process in community. That ripple becomes collective knowing. It shapes how our communities see schools, districts, unions and individuals. It shapes whether our children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, etc. want to enter the profession. It shapes whether the next generation even considers teaching as a possibility.
So when a Black parent discourages their child from becoming an educator, it’s not because they don’t value education. It’s because they don’t trust the system. And honestly, they have every reason not to. I want to be clear about something. There’s no shame in being a classroom teacher. There’s no shame in entering the profession through the pathways that exist. I loved teaching as all of us did, but there is harm in pretending those pathways are neutral, or safe, or sustainable for everyone.
So this is what I want to say.
To Black parents: you’re not wrong for wanting your children to be safe. You’re not wrong for mourning what this profession can take from them. We understand that your concern is rooted in love.
To aspiring Black educators: you deserve to teach, but you also deserve to be well. You need language for what you’re experiencing. You need community outside of your school. You need spaces for joy, for healing, for truth-telling. Don’t make the classroom your entire world.
And to school systems: when you recruit Black educators, you’re not just recruiting individuals. You’re asking entire families and communities to take a risk. People move across the country. They leave support systems behind. They bring their whole lives with them. And when you ignore that, when you focus only on numbers and representation, you don’t just lose the educator. You lose everything that came with them.
If I could speak directly to Kelly’s mom, and to so many mothers like her, I’d say this: You did the right thing. You said what you needed to say. You saw what needed to be seen. And your love showed up as protection. And we hear you now.
When They Come Back Looking For You
Something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately is what happens when Black educators are forced to leave their students, not because they want to, but because they have to.
Something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately is what happens when Black educators are forced to leave their students, not because they want to, but because they have to. We talk about teacher turnover as a staffing, pipeline, and retention issue. But we rarely talk about what that moment actually feels like in a classroom. I think about the first day of school more than I think about the last. I think about students walking back into classrooms in August, looking for the teacher who was there the year before, the one who knew them, who laughed with them, who made space for who they were. And I think about what it means when that teacher is gone.
We don’t talk enough about the relationships that are interrupted in that moment or the stories students are left to tell themselves when the person who saw them is suddenly gone. We don’t talk about what happens when we leave them. Not retirement. Not transitions we chose. I am talking about when Black educators are pushed out, when we are forced to leave schools, classrooms, and communities, not because we wanted to, but because we had to.
The hardest truth is that they look for you. They come back to that classroom in August or September expecting to see you, and you are not there. I remember carrying that in my body all summer, knowing that my students would return and I would not be there to greet them. That kind of knowing does not just disappear.
I think deeply about what students believe in those moments. Do they think we stopped caring? Do they think we chose other students over them? Do they believe we simply moved on? Some students may understand, but many are left to fill in the blanks.
And what I need people, especially leaders, to understand is that we do not just move on. You may close our file, process the paperwork, and move forward with replacement plans, but that experience stays in our spirit. It lingers in ways that are not easily named and not quickly resolved.
What we are talking about here is grief, even if we do not always call it that. For educators, that grief can live in the body as tightness in the chest, as heart palpitations, as sadness that does not have a clear place to go. Sometimes it shows up as depression. Sometimes it shows up as exhaustion. For many Black educators, it is layered with racial battle fatigue, which makes it even more complex to process. Leaving a school does not mean you have healed from what happened there. I have spoken with educators who needed years before they could even begin to talk about their experiences. The wound does not close just because you leave the building.
And on the other side of that, there are the students. We do not often name their experience as grief, but there is something there. There are students who come back wanting to share what happened over the summer, wanting to reconnect with the adult who saw them, who believed in them, who held space for them. And that person is gone. Their families feel it too, because children carry those relationships home. When a teacher leaves under those circumstances, it is not just a staffing change. It is a disruption of relationship, of trust, of continuity.
We also have to be honest about why this is happening. Black educators are being pushed out because we are pushing up against systems that were not designed for us. The current structure of education continues to center white norms, white comfort, and white success. When Black educators advocate, when we create space for Black children and families, when we practice truth-telling about what is happening in schools, the system responds. And too often, that response is not transformation. It’s resistance, isolation, and removal.
So let me say this plainly. School systems, as they currently operate, do not fully love all children. They may love what children produce. They may love the data, the funding, the outcomes that can be measured and reported.
But love would require something deeper. Love would require schools to seek understanding, to build relationships with Black educators, families and communities, to design curriculum that reflects the lives of the students in front of them, to actually listen and believe what Black children say about their experiences.
What I see instead is that Black children are often left fighting for those very things, sometimes alone. They are fighting to be seen, to be represented, to experience joy in spaces that were never designed with them in mind.
When Black educators show up to protect that to advocate, to create, to hold space, we are often positioned as the problem. When we leave, students do not just lose a teacher. They lose someone who sees them, someone who understands them, someone who is actively rooting for them. Even when we do not share the exact same background, there is a connection that comes from shared identity and shared experience. That connection matters. It shows up in the small things, in the check-ins, in the encouragement, in the belief that is communicated both directly and indirectly every single day.
For many of us, there is no real goodbye. When I left, I didn’t get to sit down with my students and explain. I didn’t get to close that chapter in a way that honored what we had built together. One day I was there, and then I was not.
That is part of why I created The Exit Interview. It exists because so many Black educators never get to tell their story. We don’t get to say what happened. We don’t get to name the harm. We don’t get to say goodbye in the ways we need to. And yet, the love remains. If I could speak to my former students now, I’d tell them that I love them, that I’m still rooting for them, that I’m proud of them every single day.
When we talk about retention, we have to expand what we mean. Retention is not just about keeping teachers in classrooms. It is about creating environments where people actually belong. It is about designing systems where Black teachers, students, families, and communities are all seen as integral, not peripheral. Belonging cannot be conditional. It cannot depend on behavior, performance, or proximity to whiteness. If we’re serious about supporting students, then we have to be serious about supporting the people who show up for them every day.
I’ll leave you with this. Think about all the Black educators you have encountered in your life. How many of them stayed until retirement? And how many left earlier than they intended to? What happened to them? What did they carry with them when they left? And what did students lose in their absence?
Because we can't keep talking about student outcomes without talking about who is in our students’ corner, and who is no longer there.